I had expected drama, even thought she might faint when I came out to her. “She looked at me and said if this was about me being gay, she knew already. Sushant pestered her some more until she muted the television and asked them what all the fuss was about. “Here I was, wanting to tell her something so monumental about myself and she was worried about what the actor on screen would do. Sushant sat there quietly waiting for the commercial break. She actually shushed me and asked me to wait until the commercial break to speak.” “I remember it was one afternoon when she was immersed in watching her daily serial, when I interrupted and told her I had something important to share. Coming out to their mother was a rather subdued event. “I knew they loved me and would do anything for me but I must admit even I was in awe of this reaction,” they say. Subsequent conversations with their father were all about reiterating that they wasn’t ‘straight’ or ‘gay’, they was just his child. All this was happening when I was just about 18,” they say.
My father, in his indomitable style, asked my brother what it was to him if I were gay. “He promptly went to my father and told him that I was gay. The first person in the family that Sushant came out to was their older brother, Karan, who according to Sushant, “couldn’t keep anything in his stomach”. My father stepped in and said I should study whatever I felt like and not bother about anything else.” Sushant has a very interesting story of coming out to their family. In their signature animated style, Sushant adds, “I remember a conversation with my mother where she told me that she wished I would become an architect and here I was telling her that I wanted to pursue psychology. I continue to live with my parents and while that comes as a shock to many, it’s a choice I have made – to live with them until they are around and I love it.” A lot of the confidence that Sushant exudes comes from their parents, who have stood by them like a rock.Ī post shared by Sushant Divgikr/ Rani KoHEnur about their father, Sushant says, “Coming from a conservative family and to say that I will be the best father I can and let my children be, was perhaps the best gift he could have given us. There was never a question about how one of his children was straight and the other gay. He viewed both his children with the same lens. Pradeep Divgikar (65), Sushant’s father, was rather clear in his thought process. Coming Out: Not An Earth-Shattering Revelation My sense of strength came from my parents, who never had any rules based on gender,” Sushant says. However, when I was growing up, I had no access to such interviews or people even. This was in the early ’90s when conversations and dialogues were not as open as they are today. They believed that kids should never be subjected to any kind of conditioning whatsoever,” says the 30-year-old. I was always allowed to express myself differently from other boys. While friends would make fun of why a ‘boy’ would want to play with a Barbie doll, their family was rather supportive and that gave Sushant strength. Never once did I hear my father question my choice,” they add. “I found them to be so beautifully dressed and I was automatically drawn to the grace. Sushant’s father was “unlike any other”, who would never see a reason why they could not get themselves a Barbie doll. They tell me that they have only good memories with their parents.
“I am blessed and highly favoured to be born into a family like mine,” begins Sushant. They speak of coming out, the support of their family and their drag queen persona Rani-Ko-HE-Nur. During a freewheeling conversation with celebrated LGBTQIA+ activist, Sushant Divgikar (they/them), I could not set aside my ‘parent’ hat. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body,’ wrote Elizabeth Stone.Īs a parent to two boys, there are several instances in which I feel like this quote comes rushing to me. ‘Making the decision to have a child is momentous.
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